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A strong character is not formed overnight, they are not born with it, although the makings from birth may be initially. The person who has formed solid character, set himself complex goals and achieved them, and all difficulties for a strong personality are only a way to deeply know oneself.

What does strong character mean?

Strength of character in what is it expressed, why can we say about one person that he has a strong character, but about the other not? Everyone has a character by itself, but a strong character is a set of human qualities that allow him to have his own firm life position, do not deviate from what was planned, be able to overcome difficult periods in life with faith in yourself and not give up.

Strong character traits

All strong character traits of a woman or a man mean all those positive properties and traits that are inherent in a person as a whole. This is not to say that some specific qualities, and only they, form a strong character. Each person has his own set of life circumstances, thanks to which he becomes strong. But in general, the following qualities can be listed that contribute to the formation of a strong-willed character:

• purposefulness;
• courage;
• high motivation;
• ambition;
• striving to become better and change the world.

A strong character in a man

The strengths of a person's character do not come by themselves out of nowhere. How a person builds his life path consciously or simply goes with the flow, the formation of his character depends on it. Men are characterized by purposefulness, straightforwardness and great activity, they are more sharpened for severe life trials than the beautiful half of humanity. Male strong character, in what way it is expressed:

• follows its purpose;
• achieves success in the chosen field;
• respected in society;
• contributes to the development of society by his dedication and personal success, being an example to follow;
• possesses courage and iron will;
• compassionate to the misfortunes of others;
• honest with himself and others;
• loyal to his goal, ideal, family.

A woman with a strong character

Who is a woman or a girl with a strong character - psychological portrait:

• she is independent;
• focused on cooperation with others, sees strength in this;
• knows how to take care of their needs in time;
• trusts his, thoughts, feelings;
• understands and accepts that others have the right to be themselves;
• appreciates the help of others;
• endures difficulties with dignity and supports others in difficult times.

A child with a strong character

How to recognize a child with the inclinations of a strong character and will? Strong character of the child - behavior:

• difficulties arise when you need to force the child to do what he does not want until he decides to do it himself;
• seeks to make decisions himself;
• and anger as character traits;
• if the child is busy with some business and does not succeed in reacting very emotionally, but seeks to understand and bring it to the end.

Strong character - examples

Strength of character and strong will allow people to perform heroic deeds, change society in better side and leave a memory of yourself for many centuries. In the history of mankind, there are many examples of such people with a strong character:

How to cultivate a strong character?

First you need to set yourself the goal of developing your strengths. You do not need to immediately start moving mountains, so the motivation will quickly burn out. How to become stronger in character, recommendations of psychologists:

• remember important rule: "All responsibility for your life lies entirely with you";
• develop a positive outlook on surrounding events and phenomena;
• believe in yourself in any scenario of the situation and be above your fears;
• understand that difficulties and obstacles are the next step towards development;
• keep fit: moderate physical activity, proper nutrition are integral to building strong character;
• gradually, step by step, transform your weak sides into strong ones, mercilessly saying goodbye to bad habits.

Strong character quotes

Aphorisms and sayings of famous writers and philosophers for many people become a motto in life, helping to overcome difficult periods. Quotes about strong character:

• A firm character must be combined with the flexibility of the mind (L. Vovenargue);
• Man himself is the ultimate creator of his character (L. Lopatin);
• A strong character, like a strong stream, encountering an obstacle, only gets irritated and intensifies even more, but at the same time, having overturned the obstacle, it makes a deep channel for itself (K. Ushinsky);
• Character consists in the ability to act according to the principles (I. Kant);
• Talents are formed in peace, characters in the midst of everyday storms (I. Goethe).

Movies about a strong character

All people have ups and downs, but the strong differ from the weak in that they consider obstacles and difficulties an integral part of their path, while weak people give up quickly at the first difficulty

1. Cast Away... He, the main character, who lived an ordinary human life, had to face a different reality of being, when every day is a struggle for survival. So in a difficult test, the hero's strong character flourishes and courage and stamina come to the surface.

1. Soul Serfer... An autobiographical film about a girl Bethany Hamilton, a surfer at the age of 13 during a training session who lost her arm as a result of a shark attack. This ordeal did not rob her of her desire to compete on a par with healthy surfers.

1. "Jobs: Empire of Temptation / Jobs"... This name needs no introduction. The film is about the formation, life twists and turns and the strong character of the founder of Apple.

1. The Pursuit of Happyness... The biography of Chris Gernett is a millionaire and philanthropist who has gone from a homeless single father and aspiring sales representative to a successful broker.

1. Gone With the Wind... Strong character and independent Scarlet O'Hara accepts all trials as a challenge to fate, because she is the mistress of her life.

Strong character - books

Books about strength of character give readers an example and inspire them to achieve their goals. Books about strong-willed character:

1. “A guide to life. How to achieve your goals, learn to overcome obstacles and forge a strong character ”B. Grills. The famous traveler and conqueror of difficult mountain peaks shares his experience on how to become a strong and purposeful person.
2. "Born with character" E. Belonoshchenko. A book for parents, how to recognize in a child the will to overcome obstacles, his desire to know himself.
3. The Hunger Games S. Collins. Fiction trilogy about strong girl Katniss, who has become so due to the harsh circumstances of life.
4. An Astronaut's Guide to Life on Earth. What 4000 hours in orbit taught me ”K. Hadfield. A bestseller about perseverance, fortitude and character with humor and kindness of the author.
5. "Frida Kahlo" by H. Errera. This amazing woman, artist, little fragile, went through difficult ordeals of fate and became a strong famous person.

"Strong personality" can be described different ways... Some of the most common characteristics of such a personality include honesty, loyalty, and a good knowledge of work etiquette. To strengthen the various aspects of your character, you can use enough general recommendations... First of all, you need to work on developing the best character traits in yourself, which will allow you to form your best self in yourself. It also helps to learn how to empathize with others and show appreciation. Eventually, it will be possible to begin developing a strong character by performing leadership functions and overcoming the difficulties that arise in front of you.

Steps

Work on the best qualities of your personality

Be honest. Honesty is a key component of a person's character. Show others that you are an honest person and do not let your words diverge from your deeds. For example, if you tell your partner that you will be more helpful at work, show that you are serious. You can start to regularly take an interest in the progress of things. big project what he does, or offer to take on the responsibility of organizing lunch for him in the workplace during particularly busy periods of work.

• You can also become more honest through more sincere behavior. Don't feel obligated to always behave in a particular way. Your reactions should be natural.
• For example, you might say to your partner, “I’m sorry I didn’t support you enough before. I think this is all because I miss you when you’re at work.”

1. Use introspection. Introspection allows you to know yourself on a deeper level. Once you achieve self-awareness, you will understand your thoughts and your own reactions. A better understanding of who you really are can help you develop your own character. Take some time to introspect each day. At the same time, you can ask yourself questions of the following type: "Why did I react in such a way to what Sveta said? How can I correct my own reaction the next time in case of a conflict?"

   • Meditation is also great for raising self-awareness. You can learn to meditate by using special downloadable apps for your phone, attending classes, or reading meditation books. You can even just try to sit quietly and see where your thoughts wander!

2. Build composure. You can develop self-control by making small changes to your daily life... For example, you can work on controlling impulsive cravings for snacking. When you are tempted to chew late at night, stop and ask yourself if you are really hungry. Then, instead of having a snack, drink a large glass of water. You have the ability to consciously approach the issue of controlling your impulse impulses.

   • It's a good idea to get into the habit of making your bed every day. This will help you develop the discipline that comes in handy in other life situations.

3. Try to live by honor. Living with honor means being honest with your inner self. If your actions do not correspond to your beliefs, then unresolved conflict will always boil inside you. Remember and respect your personal values ​​and principles in your daily life. Make decisions based on these principles and be adamant about pressure from others.

   • Engage in activities that align with your values.
   • Consider how your decisions are in line with your beliefs.
   • Change habits that run counter to your beliefs.
   • Be honest.

4. Take responsibility for your own mistakes and correct them. Everyone makes mistakes, but how you react to these situations shows your character. Be honest if you've done something wrong and try to take steps to remedy the situation. Depending on your specific circumstances, you may need to apologize. Otherwise, you will need to change your own behavior or fix what you have done.

   • Talk to the person affected by your actions to make a specific decision.
   • Weigh possible ways correcting the situation.
   • If you made a mistake or hurt someone, admit the mistake and correct it. For example, you might say, "I'm sorry I borrowed your idea. I'm going to tell everyone that you originated it."

5. Learn to take risks wisely. There are many reasons a person may take risks, including the desire to become more confident and find new ways to achieve success. The risk can be considered deliberate only when you have weighed all the possible positive and negative consequences of your action. You should not commit rash acts.

   • For example, you dream of creating your own photography studio. It would probably be unwise to suddenly quit your job and become dependent on your newly established venture. A more deliberate strategy is to start small gradually. Try to work as a photographer on weekends. As your endeavor develops, it will already be possible to think more seriously about how to devote all your time to your favorite business.

6. Be patient. It is common for all people to lose patience at times. You may have even had to bite your tongue sometimes when a coworker couldn’t grasp something right away. Developing patience will take some effort on your part. Start by trying to assess the situation through the eyes of another person. Try to think this way: "Oh, maybe Masha does not understand what I am explaining to her, because she does not have a technical education, like me. I need to use less professional jargon in my explanations."

7. Ask someone you trust to describe you. Sometimes it is difficult to objectively assess yourself. If you're serious about getting better, try asking someone to describe you. This person must at the same time be honest and capable of constructive criticism.

   • Yours might be a good candidate. best friend... Refer to him: “Sergei, I am seriously striving to become a stronger person. Could you help me and name some of the strengths and weaknesses of my character? "
   • Please accept the feedback you receive with gratitude and try to take action to make some of the recommended changes.

   Ability to empathize and express appreciation

   1. Learn to put yourself in the shoes of others. Learning to empathize can help you understand other people better. You can strengthen your character by finding mutual understanding with people and helping them. Try to imagine what the other person is going through. For example, a friend of yours may have recently lost a brother. Think about how he might feel and how you would feel in his place. Try to think of ways you can relieve your friend's condition.

      • You can even go further and try to experience exactly what the other person was facing. For example, your partner might get upset about having to do all of the cooking herself. Try taking on cooking responsibilities for the week so that you realize what is making her so annoying.

   2. Fight prejudice in yourself and others. Everyone has certain conjectures and even prejudices in relation to other people. They can be both conscious and unconscious. For example, you can count people who only graduated from high school and did not receive vocational education, uneducated. Try to adjust your mindset to be more open path and begin to be more tolerant of other people.

      • Pay attention to your biases. If you catch yourself making conjectures, note this to yourself. Being aware of possible bias is the first step in dealing with it.
      • When these thoughts overwhelm you again, take action to change your way of thinking. Instead of thinking that “such a person cannot be smart,” think, “Wow, despite the lack of professional education, he did a great job. It's impressive. ”

   3. Practice gratitude. Gratitude is considered to be part of strong character, as it demonstrates your awareness of the contributions of others and the environment to the cause. You can develop a grateful attitude by deliberately incorporating it into your daily life. For example, you might list three things at the end of the day every day that you are grateful for.

      • You can also keep a diary in which you will write down all the things for which you are grateful. There you can make appropriate notes throughout the day, or simply set aside 10 minutes in the evenings for this.
      • In the diary, you can write: “Today I had the opportunity to volunteer at an animal shelter. I am grateful that I was able to do something constructive this Saturday morning. ”

   4. Remember to express gratitude to other people. A grateful attitude towards life also has outer side... Remember to say “thank you” every time someone does something for you. In the same way, you can show your gratitude for those things that do not directly concern you.

      • For example, you might say to a colleague, “Thank you for bringing a new client. Business growth benefits all of us. ”
      • The gratitude may be more specific. Try saying, “I really appreciate that you fed me chicken broth when I was sick. You are so caring. ”

   Performing leadership functions

   1. Learn to speak loudly and clearly if you are shy. You can build character by taking on more responsibility. This will expand your own knowledge base and horizons. Start by assessing how you communicate with other people. If you are usually afraid to speak up, make an effort and learn to speak clearly so that your voice can be heard.

      • Perhaps you are an extra choir student and have a good taste in music. If you are firmly convinced that certain music should be used at an upcoming event, make it clear and make your explanations clear.
      • At work, attend more meetings. People will be more receptive when you communicate your ideas clearly and confidently.

   2. Let others speak up first if you are usually talkative. Show your leadership skills by showing restraint. If you are usually very talkative, try letting other people be heard. Then you will have a chance to think and give a thoughtful answer.

      • For example, let's say you set yourself a goal to learn Spanish. Reveal best ways achieve this goal and start working in this direction.
      • You can enroll in Spanish courses at a local college or take a special course of study online. You can also use special software for language learning.
      • Keep a record of what exactly you do. Don't forget to celebrate your successes.
      • Working towards clear goals will help you develop the discipline that is part of strong character.

   3. Get help when you need it. Some people see seeking help as a sign of weakness. In fact, this is a demonstration of strength of character, since by this you show that you are able to identify and assess your needs. At the same time, your requests should always be specific and understandable.

      • Instead of telling your partner at length that you need help with the housework, try saying, "It would be nice if you periodically took on the laundry and walked the dog."

   4. Emphasize other people's strengths. Moral support is a great way to cheer everyone up, including yourself. Good leaders know that support affects people better than aggressive posting. Be sure to communicate with the team of individuals entrusted to you and make them understand that the contribution of each of them is important to you.

      • Highlight people's strengths so they can grow by building on them. For example, you might say, "You have a real talent for preparing presentations! Would you like to speak on behalf of all of us?"
      • Focus on the success of the team as a whole, not your own success. Talk to management about your team using the pronoun “we”, not “me”.
      Advice
      • Identify specific traits of your character that need development.
      • Remember that your own understanding of the definition of "strong character" does not have to be the same as anyone else's.

Weakness (Weakness) as a personality trait is the inability to refuse, yielding to someone else's influence, the manifestation of thoughtless compromise with someone else's opinion, lack of will, unsteadiness, weak-heartedness and slobbering.

One guy came to Moscow to earn extra money, found a job and rented an apartment. After some time, his fellow countryman rang his doorbell and asked him to give him shelter, that is, to allow him to turn over for three days. The guy knew about the bad reputation of his uninvited guest, about his constant conflicts with law enforcement agencies, but due to his weakness of character he gave in, justifying himself with the thought that he needed to be patient for only three days. The next day, when he came home from work, he saw that his rented apartment had become a typical "raspberry" for thieves, drug addicts and prostitutes. He was silent this time. And with whom to talk, if everyone is in a deranged state. The night passed almost without sleep. Leaving half asleep for work, he left the riotous company asleep. A week passed, and he still did not muster the courage to take any decisive action. Thieves took the plundered things to his apartment and hid them in hiding places. When the police found them, the guy was tried along with everyone and not just as an accomplice and accomplice, but as the organizer of a criminal group. The thieves made him the leader of the gang. The state lawyer (there was no money for an expensive lawyer) realizing that this was not a ringleader, but a running misunderstanding, asked: "How did you get into such a situation?" The guy sighed, threw up his hands and replied: “I am weak in character. I can't say no! "

A person in the context of his personality traits is a complex system. When virtues prevail in the system, we say that this is a decent, virtuous person, if vices rule, we make a verdict - a vicious person. The character of a person as a system is a combination of interacting personality traits. A whimsical blend of qualities creates a unique "cocktail" that has a first and last name.

If the elements of the human system of personality traits interact perfectly, do not put a spoke in each other's wheels, then the system is strong, that is, the person's character is also strong. If in the system of personality traits there is a war and discord between the elements, if there is no question of the interaction of personality traits, if the system itself is not stable, unstable and represents an ear with feet of clay, then we have a weak character in pure form... The overwhelming majority of people have a system of personality traits of average power.

A powerful personality trait or "strong character" can represent both Good and Evil. For example, thieves will never choose in their region to play the role of looking squishy, ​​slobber and weakling. According to them, the beholder is an uninterruptedly operating system, functioning with a well-oiled interaction of cunning, cruelty, observation, iron will, resourcefulness, in a word, all character traits necessary to maintain discipline in the criminal world of the region and protect the common fund.

Weakness is a disappointing sentence to the entire system of manifested personality traits. Weakness is "atherosclerosis" of the circulatory system of personality traits, where the connections between the elements are disordered, where even the manifested traits of character become a pitiful likeness of their fellows. When we say: "Weak-tempered person", we mean a bitter-astringent cocktail of weak will, self-doubt, inconstancy, irresponsibility, cowardice, imbalance, suggestibility, monstrous inconsistency and irrelevance.

Some, when they see an abyss, think of an abyss, while others imagine a bridge across it. Weakness is notorious and not purposeful. Their best qualities it is able to manifest only in protected conditions. She prefers inaction or the path of least resistance to activity and riskiness. It is exploited as they want by manipulators and fraudsters of all stripes. On it, as they say, "carry water", sit on her neck and hang her legs. Not being able to say "No" to the environment, weakness, as a rule, acts on someone else's orders, contrary to its own interests. At the same time, behind imaginary weakness can hide simple laziness and a desire to evoke the sympathy and compassion of others. Here the desire of compassionate people to help is used with might and main selfishly.

Weakness is a rusty anchor on the road to success. If, thanks to the previously accumulated piety, the weak-willed person is lucky and he achieves success, there will always be hunters to take advantage of the precariousness and frailty of his personality traits system. The bosses will charge him with duties that are not inherent in him, plug up the “holes” in production, send him on long business trips and give him leave in December, in a word, he will squeeze all the juices out, while not respecting and pushing them around. Business partners will seek for themselves additional benefits at the expense of a weak-minded colleague. It's a pleasure to sign contracts with him. If, by the will of fate, a weak-willed person ended up in a boss's chair, subordinates will come off to the fullest on his weaknesses.

F. La Rochefoucauld, whose opinion is worth listening to, believed that: "The weakness of character is the only flaw that cannot be corrected." Weakness is, first of all, a sharply low self-esteem, inability to say "No" and a pronounced lack of self-confidence. Even betrayal may not be the result of a carefully thought-out plan, but a manifestation of unpretentious weakness. Where there is weakness, there is no truthfulness and honesty, there is a threat to kindness, loyalty and a sense of duty. Nicola Chamfort delivered a merciless sentence to the weak character: "He who has a weak character is not a person, but a thing."

However, some people with weak character are not upset and even try to joke:

Weak - a harsh sentence.
Being soft in our time is not good.
They still reproach me for this,
before it's too late proposing to change.

Imperturbable and smiling at the sight.
Chief - tired of scoffing and scolding.
With annoyance, he lies in intensive care
for not being able to get angry.

My wife doesn't want to talk to me.
Like, I can’t - neither stay, nor get drunk.
She does not need me "positive" like that.
I would argue, but I cannot disagree.

"Some, when they see an abyss, think of an abyss, while others imagine a bridge across it."

In our environment, people always stand out with a pronounced weak or. It should be noted that such people are not common. Most, as a rule, combine in their character traits like strong personalities, and the weak, while the character of each person is inherent distinctive features and individual features.

Let's try to describe a person with a strong character.

Steve Jobs

A person with a strong character in any situation seeks not a problem, but an opportunity. Steve Jobs, Apple founder said:

"I AM only person who knows what it is like to lose a quarter of a billion dollars in a year. It shapes personality very well. "

A strong person is distinguished by perseverance, desire and desire to achieve their goals, perseverance and patience. These people usually know well what they want to achieve in life in general, as well as in each specific situation in particular. They are confident in their abilities. For all their actions, they take responsibility for themselves, and do not blame the people around them, circumstances, fate, etc. This helps them to confidently move towards their goal, they are not stopped by obstacles. As a rule, their actions, their actions are well thought out in advance, planned and aimed at solving each specific task, since the strong man he perceives difficulties as tasks that can and should be solved. In a difficult situation, he does not give up, does not whine, does not complain, but seeks to find the most optimal solution... His motto:

"When it seems that the whole world is against you, remember that the plane takes off against the wind."

An example of a strong character is the so-called ““.

With a representative of a weak character, everything is exactly the opposite. The owner of this character has features that are directly opposite to those described above.

If a strong character is perseverance, purposefulness, perseverance, perseverance, then a weak character is uncertainty, weakness, unpredictability of actions and behavior in general, a desire to shift responsibility to others. A person with a weak character does not have enough strength and will to achieve his goals, he is easily exposed to someone else's influence, is not able to defend his opinion, cannot resist anyone or anything. As a result, his behavior is often unpredictable, as he is driven by the environment and the people around him. Unable to resist the environment, a person with a weak character chooses the path of least resistance, even to the detriment of his desires and his comfort.

Such a division of characters into weak and strong, of course, is very conditional. Moreover, most often in everyday life, the phrase "person with character" means a person with a strong character, capable of behaving independently, consistently, purposefully, regardless of the people around him and the circumstances.