What is the opinion of the person. Formation of the first impression of a person. The influence of temperament on the character

Many versions exist about the first impression. Is it important, is it possible to change it. This is described in the article.

The way we evaluate people, our subjective opinion of them, depends on what we ourselves are. As a rule, we see in people those character traits that are in ourselves. In this case, usually these are some negative qualities: envy, anger, laziness, pretense. That is, if a person has, for example, anger in large quantities, then he will also consider other people to be evil, cruel, aggressive
If a person often deceives other people, or wants to deceive, then it will seem to him that all the people around him want to “cheat” him. If a person himself is honest with himself and others, then it would never occur to him that he might be fooled somewhere. The point here is not naivety. Very often, such people are not at all kind and do not live in "pink glasses", but they cannot foresee cases when they are used or deceived
This is due to the fact that we interpret human behavior in relation to our own behavior. In other words, our subconscious (or unconscious) always asks itself: "And how would I do?" And from other people we expect the same actions that we could do ourselves

What are the criteria for evaluating a person first?

People evaluate each other according to the following parameters:

appearance
level of education, availability of diplomas, certificates
mental capacity
material condition
social behavior and social circle
character (strengths / weaknesses)

This is a short list. It provides the main factors for evaluating a person by person. Of course, it is now customary to cook that appearance is not the main thing, but it has been scientifically proven that it is the appearance of the interlocutor that makes the first impression on a person.

Some people primarily pay attention to some individual features. It can be hair, nose shape, shoes, lipstick color, even the shape of eyebrows plays a role. Other people perceive the whole image at once.

The first to understand whether they like a person or not, just a second glance at what is paramount for them (hair, nails, shoes, jacket) is enough. After that, they usually already understand how communication will take place further, and whether it will be at all
People who can perceive the whole image are much easier. For example, a person may have an imperfect nose shape, but clean, ironed clothes from the latest collection of a fashion designer. Most likely, such a person will make an extremely positive impression.
There is a small percentage of people who do not have a definite impression until they personally communicate with a person. They don’t care how a person looks, what color of hair he has, what he is wearing. For him, his important intellectual abilities or character. But for people of this type, it’s enough to talk with a person for 5 minutes to understand who is in front of him
A person is inclined to judge other people, focusing on the opinions of others. Someone told someone something, here is a new opinion. Therefore, it turns out that without knowing a person, we already hate or adore him
Many people rate a person by voice. In their opinion, in the voice of a person lies his whole life path and character

Is a person evaluated in appearance?

As mentioned above, some people tend to evaluate other people solely in appearance, without delving into its problems and intellectual capabilities
Unfortunately for such people, the image of a person can change very much during the day. For example, in the morning a woman walks around the house disheveled, with a mug of coffee and an elongated T-shirt. If a neighbor sees her at that moment, she will consider this woman a slut and will be disgusted by her
But an hour later, a woman puts herself in order, puts on beautiful shoes, an office suit, consisting of a fitted jacket and a pencil skirt, removes hair in a neat hairstyle, and does strict makeup. The same neighbor, seeing such a woman, will think that she is a real bitch with a serpentine disposition, cold and prudent
In the evening, the woman returns from work, puts on a luxurious short dress, spreads her curls, does bright makeup and goes to the club. This time the neighbor will think that his neighbor is too vulgar and superficial
And if instead of a club a woman goes on a date and puts on a more closed dress, puts her hair in a less fluffy hairstyle, does not make such a bright makeup, then the neighbor will say that she boasts her wealth around the world or is looking for a rich companion, that she is usually a sloppy prudent bitch, and now dressed up for the sake of chance

From this example it is very simple to conclude that by the appearance of a person they judge very, very often. However, the truth is hardly relevant.

First impression of a person

There is an opinion that the first impression of a person is the most correct. But is it
From the examples given earlier in the article, it is clear that people judge each other far from always objectively. Therefore, it makes no sense to be upset if, in the first minute of meeting a person, he did not like you,
A certain part of people can easily change their impression within a few hours, or even days, of dating.

Appearance and first impression

Do not miss the opportunity to make a good first impression with the help of appearance. It is clear that each person has his own tastes, addictions. It’s impossible to like everything in principle
Nevertheless, in order to form a good opinion about yourself at the first meeting, it is enough to “join” the team if the meeting takes place immediately with a group of people. It is useful to know what these people are addicted to to show them their interest in their activities. Your appearance should also be consistent with the overall style.
If you meet a person 1 on 1, you should not put pressure on him and show your "I". Yes, even your appearance may scream: “Look at me! I’m in charge here! ” There is nothing better than naturalness

First impression of a man

To make a positive first impression on a man is quite simple contrary to public opinion.

First of all, men pay attention to:

figure, especially on the "rear view"
manner of communication
posture
hair
nails. Very long or dirty nails scare men away
clothes

To make a good impression on a man, it is not at all necessary to jump near him for hours. It is enough to be direct and natural in dealing with him. Do not be vulgar and too rude. It is useful for men to forgive help in some situations, even if you do not really need it. But do not ask them to calculate the cost of products for you, for example. You make yourself stupid.

Many men do not like very bright colors in clothes and makeup. This causes them to associate. But grooming and femininity like the vast majority of men.

Changing a man’s first impression of himself is very difficult. Unlike women, men are more logical and consistent. But they cannot think as flexibly as a woman. Therefore, the first impression is very difficult for them to change.

How to form a positive first impression?

There are certain rules that will help you leave a good impression about yourself after almost every meeting:

In fact, you can change the impression of yourself. But this will be the second, third or fourth impression. But the first impression lays a mark on all further communication. Especially in its early stages.

Of course, people tend to change, but when applying for a job, the employer will judge you at a given time, he does not care much about how you will be in 5 or 10 years. He chooses an employee now, and therefore judges you in the present tense. Therefore, it is always important to look good, because there is no second chance to make a first impression.

First impression mistakes

It is worth remembering that what we see depends on how we look. It is worth looking at a person in a slightly different way, and from an arrogant arrogant type, he turns into a cute smiling young man, always ready to help.

Due to lack of life experience or knowledge, a person very often judges incorrectly. The article had previously given an example with a neighbor and a girl. Such a neighbor is just an example of a near and petty person. Of course, one should not be guided by the opinion of such people. If you recognize yourself as a neighbor, immediately change your views on the world. First of all, evaluate your mistakes.

First impression is deceptive

The first impression is deceptive for people who are used to not changing their minds about people. Those who have a flexible mind are able to evaluate a person correctly and see in him who he really is.

You can dress as you like. Dye your hair in any color. A person will not change from this. He will not become stupider or smarter. But the opinion of him with each of his transformations will change in the diametrically opposite direction.

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How to make a definite opinion about a person?

In order to fully and correctly form the opinion of a person (first impression), it is necessary to compare both halves as a whole, and not look only at one of them - external or internal. What is important is everything, both appearance, and what is inside that exterior. We get the first impression of the view - the appearance of a person, and only then from his character, mind, spirituality, comparing it all together, not separately from each other. Because it is closely connected as two halves of one whole, and that they represent themselves in each other. Appearance - speaks of external beauty or its absence, but spirituality and thoughts about the beauty of a person’s inner world, about his character qualities, his strengths or weaknesses. And of course, in order to know better than a person - what is he in general, basically, it takes time and communication with him. A person’s intentions and dreams - they will say a lot about nm - how much more kind or evil a person is, how smart, noble, responsive, or more selfish, how big or small, with a lively spark in the soul or with icicles in the heart.

A certain opinion about a person does not immediately develop. If someone determines the essence of a person only by the way he is dressed, he is not very smart.

Just the opposite. Very gifted people are sloppy in clothing and appearance. For them, this is a secondary issue. The main thing for them is their thoughts, which overwhelm their head and with which they are busy all the time.

But this does not mean that with a gifted person everything is fine. It can be an unbearable bore and those around it simply will not be able to bear it for a long time. So genius and sociability, as a rule, are not friends in one person.

Based on the above, a person can be judged by his conversation, manners, by interacting with others, by his ability to overcome difficult situations, and only last by appearance.

I try to trust my intuition and life experience, although they sometimes fail. Communication and conversations are important, from which we can draw conclusions about the views of a person, his behavior, at least in everyday life. I can tactfully ask questions, the answers to which can also tell a lot about a person, if they are sincere. But they say correctly to know a person, I need to eat a pound of salt with him. And then you don’t know until the end.

that a person is good or bad can only be judged by his actions, words, and again, he won’t be superfluous, although not all reviews of nm are from other people. Personally, a person can reject me from further communication with him after the first dating is purely visual. Since I see I feel the bad aura of this person without his words. I have met a lot of boastful in words and self-confident, I think these can be identified immediately.

And yet, psychologists say that the first impression is the most correct (at the level of intuition). But it seems to me that clothes also play a role, I'm not talking about my darling, I'm talking about a neatly dressed person is respect for others. old people say that a person needs to be judged by how he treats old, small, crippled and animals. I think this test is the most accurate. If a person can feel sorry for someone who cannot be useful to him in the future, then this speaks of a noble I really liked the question, because we are so often mistaken in people, especially when looking for your soul mate.

Recently I heard that what a person is in evil and in drinking, that’s what he really is. I think that there is a grain - a person doesn’t control himself and gives out everything that is inside him. This is interesting !!

The basic rule is to trust your heart, your intuition. Check by the actions that this person does in relation not only to you, but also to other people, children, animals. Particularly vividly, a man reveals himself in small things. Children and animals are usually drawn to a good person, it has been checked more than once. It is not always possible to make a certain opinion in the first meeting, look at the person in different situations.

The first impression is the look. Then the communication. And only after that I form my opinion. There are still things that I personally don’t like right away: pretense, insincerity. This is immediately visible and even the appearance will not save. And sometimes a person is not dressed very well, but he goes positive to him. Regarding the appearance, now it is a very controversial indicator. Now we no longer have such a wild attitude to clothes, people want to feel free. And the appearance does not at all speak about the situation in society. Actually, this is true all over the world, and this is normal. Time passed chains with a finger. 🙂

To make up some opinion about a person, you need to at least have a close chat with him and, at a maximum, visit him in some kind of stressful situation. Then certainly there will be a definite opinion.

To do this, you need to see him in those situations when he appears as much as possible. For example, she laughs. It goes. Greets, reaches out for a handshake. Meets guests, talking on the phone with different people. Decides what to buy and what not.

Sometimes a cursory glance is enough. Sometimes - a few offers on the network. Sometimes years. It depends on the experience, knowledge of life, education and well-readiness of someone who wants to understand another person.

If, for example, you get acquainted with the primaries of physiognomy, you can learn to analyze the type of person in appearance.

A DEFINED opinion is the setting of LIMITs beyond which you forbid yourself to think. I prefer not to do this at all.

a certain opinion about a person develops by itself after some time of communication. often a person is judged by his actions, by the way he behaves in society, by a sense of humor, by clothing, by appearance, according to friends about this person

We will devote several articles to how to make our communication with other people enjoyable and useful.
And we will start from the very beginning - from acquaintance.
Did it happen that you were denied work at the first meeting, although this meeting was scheduled? Did the meeting with a person important to business or personal relations end in anything? But the relationship with the mother-in-law or mother-in-law did not work out because you did not like each other at first sight?
Now I have mentioned those situations that are really important for us and our life depends on what impression we make in them. It has been established, for example, that when applying for a job, no matter how long the conversation lasts, a positive or negative opinion about the candidate develops during the first 3-4 minutes of the conversation. After that, questions are asked depending on the prevailing opinion: with a positive one - allowing a person to open up from the best side, with a negative one - “backfill”. I think that not all specialists studying communication problems will agree with 3-4 minutes. Some consider and prove this experimentally, that the first impression is formed in 10 seconds of interaction.

The first impression is always wrong

Probably many of us, if they did not take part in such a dispute, at least thought about the question of how misleading or correct the first impression is. I wonder what conclusions have you come to? I am convinced that there is no single answer to this question - it can be true, it can be completely wrong, it can be partially true. It all depends on who is perceived, who perceives and the conditions of perception.
Sorry for the banality, but people are different. Some are open to perception, it is easy to make a first impression of them. Others are closed, it is often difficult to say anything specific about them. They can be either intellectuals, or near-minded, or shy, etc., but to guess about it is often not easy. Still others are constantly on the move; their inner world is hidden behind external vanity and actions. There are people who are well able to adapt to circumstances, and there are those who defy any descriptive characteristics. They dissolve in the crowd, leaving no trace of their image in the observer's memory. It is very difficult to say anything definite about them. Of course, all this affects the first impression.

Factors That Affect First Impression

1. Physical attractiveness
Indeed, it was noted that “what is beautiful is good”, that is, the effect of beauty can attribute to the interlocutor, without any factual basis, exclusively positive character traits and moral qualities.
Assessing attractiveness, special attention is paid to the face. An attractive person is a person with a beautiful face, and this is connected not only with the beauty of the face, but with its expressiveness. If the facial expressions of the interlocutor expresses calm and goodwill, then in most cases he will be appreciated by others positively.
The most important role in the formation of physical attractiveness plays posture. It is known that good posture is associated with confidence and optimism, as well as internal strength and dignity. Bad posture is perceived as a manifestation of uncertainty, and very often - dependence and subordination. All this is very important to consider when establishing contacts with people.

2. In addition to external attractiveness, non-verbal human behavior is of paramount importance.
A special place is occupied by the gaze of man. If a person does not look away, does not look “past” the other, does not lower his eyes, then more confident, more benevolent develops about him, and this is due to the experience that people have had in the past that, on the one hand, by nature, a person is not afraid to look into people's eyes, on the other hand, if a person keeps his gaze on us, it means that we are interested in him.
It turned out that the pose in which the person is during the conversation is also important. People are more likely to like those who tilt their body forward during a conversation, compared with those who tilt it back.
The fact of the existence of a distance for each person (in his usual environment) was established, which should separate him from a stranger so that this would not cause irritation. The magnitude of this distance depends on the growth of people, their gender, neuropsychic state, intentions that exist in relation to the person about whom they are trying to form an opinion. For example, women prefer a slightly smaller distance of such communication, men prefer a larger one. With people you like talking at a closer distance. On this basis, you can determine the relationship of the interlocutor to himself. With official communication or with a cautious attitude, they try to settle a little further.

3. Attitude to people
A greater effect on the perception of an outsider will be imposed by his positive attitude towards people. Due to this effect, a general reappraisal of a stranger can occur. In order for the interlocutor to feel a good attitude towards himself, you need to show attention and interest in him. It is important here not to go too far so as not to impress either the flatterer or the manipulator.

4. Speech and voice
We unconsciously associate the sound of a voice with certain personality characteristics. Therefore, even when we do not see a person, but only hear him, we still have an idea about the interlocutor and some opinion about his character. An unbalanced or hysterical person is steadily associated with a shrill voice. A quick but slightly confused speech will betray uncertainty. A languid voice reveals a sensual but cautious nature. A lingeringly speaking and stretching words, a person can make an impression of an idiot. A voiced voice, more often than not, indicates a cheerful disposition.
When perceiving a person, they also pay attention to verbal turns, frequently used words and expressions, intonations, sound hardness, pace of speech and articulation. Thoughts are reflected in the voice. If we think of something harsh or unpleasant, the voice becomes harder. If we think about a loved one, then softness appears in the voice. In addition, style and content are important - analyzing them, it is not difficult to understand the cultural level of a person. After just a few minutes of conversation, the interlocutor will form an idea about how friendly and reliable you are, and what degree of trust you can talk about. Scientists have established an interesting pattern - they believe that the emotions of anger and fear make the sound of the voice older, and the emotions of joy “reduce” age.

5. Features of the appearance of a personsuch as clothes, hairstyle, cosmetics also affect the emerging impression. The general rule in the selection of clothes says: "Choose the style of clothing that is acceptable where you are going." In some circumstances, the style acts as a friend-or-foe identification system. If the styles coincide fundamentally, then you are mistaken for “your own”, and this facilitates communication with strangers. Dress, suit make people attribute certain qualities. For example, a man in a military uniform attributed such qualities as discipline, accuracy, persistence. In general, the selection of clothes must be treated very carefully, taking into account your color type and proportion of the figure (This can be read on the Internet, but we'll also talk about this on the pages of the site).

This term was coined in 1992 by psychologists Nalini Ambady and Robert Rosenthal. They used it to study the phenomenon of first impression and social intuition.

According to the hypothesis, non-verbal behavior of a person can tell a lot about him. To test this hypothesis, scientists recorded 10-second silent videos in which Harvard teachers lectured. The videos were shown to people unfamiliar with the teachers and asked them to rate speakers according to 15 parameters (“thin sections”). Volunteers judged how active lecturers were, confident in themselves, sincere, and so on.

Then the experiment was repeated, but they were already showing 5-second videos to another group of viewers. Surprisingly, thin sections almost coincided in both cases. Scientists went further: the timing was reduced to 2 seconds, and the participants in the experiment were updated again. The result was repeated.

After that, the researchers asked to characterize the teachers of the students who attend their lectures and know them for more than one semester. And here was the main surprise.

Thin sections among students and outside observers, who evaluated teachers only by short “dumb” videos, practically coincided. This allowed to summarize:

People make a conclusion about those they see for the first time, very quickly, literally during the first 2 seconds of communication. However, their judgment has nothing to do with what a person says.

Let's find out what thin sections people make about us in the first seconds of our acquaintance.

The trust

Alexander Todorov and Janine Willis from Princeton University, that people conclude that the interlocutor is reliable for 100 milliseconds.

One group was shown photographs of strangers and was asked to rate their attractiveness, competence, and reliability. Each shot showed 0.1 seconds. Another group was given the same pictures, but time was not limited. As a result of the assessment, the participants in the experiment, contemplating the photos for only 100 milliseconds, coincided with the ratings of those who viewed the photo as they wanted. The correlation was especially strong when assessing the level of trust in the individual.

Social status

A study by Dutch scientists showed that people use clothing as a social marker that determines the position in society and the individual's income level. When a person wears Tommy Hilfiger, Lacoste, or things from other well-known brands, those around him think he is in a high position.

In one of the experiments, participants were shown a video interview of applicants for the position of laboratory assistant at the university. Some of the applicants were dressed in plain white shirts, and some were in shirts with a clearly marked brand. But the actions and speech of all were identical. Only one video was shown to each volunteer, after watching which he had to evaluate on a seven-point scale how much this or that applicant was worthy of the position and what his social status was. The position in the society of applicants in designer clothes was rated higher, as well as their chances of getting a job.

Sexual orientation

Nalini Ambady and Nicholas Rule conducted a study, and it turned out that the sexual orientation of a man can be determined in 50 milliseconds.

Volunteers were shown photographs of men (hetero and homo) from dating sites in random order over different time intervals. At 50-millisecond visual contact with the photo, the accuracy of estimates of sexual orientation was 62%.

Approximately the same results were obtained when studying the probability of determining the sexual identity of women by persons (Rule, Ambady & Hallett, 2009). And the time for this required even less - 0.04 seconds.

Intelligence

Nora A. Murphy, a psychology professor at Loyola University in Los Angeles, suggests that looking into the eyes is considered a sign of the mind. Those who do not look away at the meeting give the impression of more intellectually developed people.

Murphy tried to determine by what criteria people evaluate mental abilities. For this, the subjects were divided into two groups: the first were asked to demonstrate erudition during a conversation recorded on video; the second did not give such instructions. All participants passed the IQ test. The “players” behaved in approximately the same way: they held a posture, made a serious face and certainly looked into the interlocutor’s eyes. And it was in this group that the audience most often reliably determined the level of intelligence of the participants, including low.

Eye contact during a conversation is the key to behavior. This is interconnected with an assessment of intelligence, which can be manipulated if you do not hide your eyes.

In addition, there are other stereotypes that form the idea of \u200b\u200bthe human mind. For example, wearing solid glasses.

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Promiscuity

British scientists have found that women with tattoos on prominent parts of the body are perceived as more licentious (loving at times to drink hard and having a hectic sex life).

The authors of the study, Viren Swami and Adrian Furham, showed the participants photographs of women in swimsuits. Some of them had tattoos on their stomachs, others on their arms, still others there and there, and others did not have them. Volunteers were asked to rate women in three ways:

moral stability;
alcohol consumption;
physical attractiveness.

The more tattooed the woman was, the less attractive and chaste she was considered. “A girl with a tattoo in the eyes of the public is a kid who loves alcohol, cool cars and men's attention,” the scientists concluded.

Leadership

Albert E. Mannes from the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School of Business found that bald men are credited with dominance, perceived as leaders who can successfully lead a team.

The scientist conducted a series of experiments. During one of them, he showed photographs of men with and without hair. The people in the photo were the same age and in the same clothes. Volunteers had to take a look at the pictures and say which of the men is stronger in moral and physical terms. The palm went bald.

Success

A group of British-Turkish researchers found that people in suits, tailored to order, make the impression of more successful in career terms.

To this conclusion, researchers also came in the course of experiments with photographs. 5 seconds were enough for volunteers to make a conclusion.

If you want to improve your image and look more successful in the eyes of others, wear clothing tailored to the individual tailor by a good tailor.

The study also says that women in sexy skirts and blouses with a deep neckline are perceived as workers with a lower status than women who strictly follow the dress code. Scientists attribute this to the fact that a closed body is a sign of power. From time immemorial, representatives of power structures wore closed robes.

Potential

In 2011, Canadian researchers came to the following conclusion: in the eyes of others, men who prefer a classic business suit, achieve fame, money and success faster than adherents of casual style.

Participants in the experiment were shown photographs of models. Some of them were in elegant suits, and some in simple everyday things. Volunteers were asked to predict who people will work in the photo and what fate awaits them. As a result, men in jeans and sweaters were credited with lower wages and positions, even if they were sitting in leather chairs in chic classrooms. On the contrary, people in strict suits were judged as “kings of life”: they will have a lot of money, they will quickly succeed.

Adventurism

Employees of Durham University found a connection between gait and a thirst for adventure. In their opinion, a free and laid-back gait speaks of extraversion and a tendency to adventure. While jerking gait is inherent in neurotic personalities.

Conclusions were made during the experiment, where students watched videos of walking people.

As you can see, folk wisdom, "they meet by clothes ..." has scientific justification. Moreover, the first impression made by a person often remains final.

And what do you pay attention to when you meet and why? Tell us in the comments.

People form an opinion about a person based on their feelings of what they see. Numerous psychological studies have confirmed that this method is the right one in the vast majority of cases.

When you evaluate a person, the first thing you do is check his personal qualities intuitively. You analyze how it complies with your own attitudes and “standards.”

But how is it possible to understand something in the first minutes or even seconds of communication? Oddly enough, the reason is that the other person evaluates you the same way, and it is your reaction to each other that allows both of you to make the right opinion.

Everything happens like this. When you meet, you seem to exchange some signals, and some ancient parts of your brain decide whether it is possible to show a little more openness to this person. If the decision is positive, it is always noticeable by micro-gestures and small changes in facial expressions. The other person does the same. This is a multi-stage process, during which you either admit that you like it, or something worries you in it, and you close. In this case, most likely, the person closes from you too.

Exceptions are really extremely rare. If a person does not manage to adequately “exchange” mutual opinions about each other, this may even indicate some mental deviations.

No matter how highly organized beings people become, the conscious part of the brain is still just a tiny island in an ocean of unconscious processes. Most of the actions that your brain performs cannot be captured by thought. However, consciousness sets a vector that allows you to control some things. For example, you yourself can try to work on what impression you make.

How to make the best impression in the first minutes

It is known that people tend to sympathize with their own kind. Therefore, a similar style in clothes and some “identification” signs, for example, logos of any brands or music groups, can do half the work for you. But if you are dating someone you don’t know anything about, for example, going for an interview, then try the following steps.

Prepare your clothes very carefully. It should reflect the message that you are carrying. When you get a job as a manager in a large company, in no case can you afford negligence in clothes. But if you are a representative of the creative profession, then the ideal business suit can even alert the interviewer. In any case, the clothes should be very neat.

Be open and smile. Do not cross your arms over your chest or cross your legs. Keep calm. Do not tug on clothes, do not hesitate to look into the interlocutor's eyes. The openness expressed by gestures always works for you. The main thing is that it be natural. If it’s difficult for you and you’re nervous, then it’s better to behave a little more closed, but not tense.