Statement by famous psychologists. Sayings of great psychologists

“Tell me and I will forget. Show me and I will remember. Call me with you, and I will understand. " Confucius

"Live not in the past or in the future, but give your work all your energy every day to satisfy your wildest ambitions." William Osler

“Nothing can hinder a person with a firm internal installation in achieving their goals, as nothing in the world can help a person with a wrong inner attitude. " Thomas Jefferson

"How closer people to the truth, the more tolerant they are to other people's delusions. " L. N. Tolstoy

"Regret looks back, anxiety looks around, faith looks forward." Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Do not expect a particularly favorable moment that will never come. Start where you are, using the tools at your disposal, and better tools will appear as you move. " Napoleon Hill

“If a person confidently moves towards his dream, strives to live the life that he drew for himself, he will be successful, which is difficult to expect in ordinary life». Henry David Thoreau

“Your providence will become clear only if you can look into your heart. The one looking outside is dreaming, the one looking inside is awakening. " Carl Jung

"I go to my destination as if nothing else exists in the world now." Charles Kingsley

"It is bad when your fight ends in surrender, except when it is fought with a vending machine." R.K. Gallaheer's

"He waits, and all the best passes by." Thomas Edison

"A highly developed personality often meets resistance in communication from mediocre minds." Albert Einstein

“Mediocrity does not mean short intellectual abilities; it only means the level of intelligence at which a person cannot stand those who are better, and envies them. " Ayn Rand

"We move along our path only when we face the goal, when we believe in ourselves, we believe that we will overcome everything." Orizon Swett Marden

“Few things in the world have the same power as positive support. Smile. An expression of optimism and hope. The words "you can do it" when it's especially hard. " Richard M. Devos

“The main enemy of the best is the good. If you are ready to settle for the good, you will never be the best. " Charles Kaiser

“The difference between people is small, but this small difference is the whole difference. There is little difference in mood, great in its direction, positive or negative. " W. Clement Stone

“I realized that I can live my life in two ways: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams are not a matter of chance, but of choice. When I dream, I believe that I play my future in my head. " David Copperfield

“Life has one funny feature: if you agree to accept only the best from it…. very often you will get the best. " Somerset Maugham

"Everything that you vividly imagine, what you passionately desire, what you sincerely believe in and what you work with enthusiasm, simply cannot but happen." Paul Meyer

"Every obstacle, every failure and bad experience contains the seeds of an equivalent good and can be a gift of fate in disguise." Napoleon Hill

Do not imagine that your case is extraordinarily difficult. Even those who, over time, became the most eloquent representatives of their generation, at the beginning of their careers suffered from such an unaccountable fear and shyness.
Dale Carnegie

If a child experiencing irritation could not change the situation and could not cry tears of futility, could not go from anger to grief, then the energy of frustration goes on, to the last mechanism protection from aggression.
Gordon Newfeld

The question of the mission of psychotherapy is, first of all, the question of its comprehension of itself and its purpose.
Victor Kagan

Man's greatest friend and greatest enemy is his imagination.
Arturo Graf

Here are collected not only aphorisms from little-known psychologists, but also quotes from great psychologists.

Man "by nature" is not inclined to make money, more and more more money, he just wants to live, live the way he is used to, and earn as much as is necessary for such a life.
Maximilian Karl Julius Weber (Max Weber)

A strong temperament is possessed by a person who is able not only to feel strongly, but also to maintain balance under the most severe trials and is able, despite the storm in his chest, to obey the subtlest instructions of the mind, like the needle of a compass on a ship agitated by a storm.
Karl von Clausewitz

Remember that unfair criticism is often a compliment in disguise. Don't forget that no one ever hits a dead dog.
Dale Carnegie

After a period of happiness, joyful excitement and a feeling of fullness of life, the perception of what has been achieved will inevitably come for granted and anxiety, dissatisfaction and desire for more will arise!
Abraham Maslow

It is very easy to destroy or suppress the potential of a person so much that a full-fledged personality will seem to us something like a miracle, such an incredible incident that plunges into awe. But at the same time, it is encouraging that self-actualizing people nevertheless exist, and therefore, you can cope with all the trials and emerge victorious.
Abraham Maslow

Life is a process of constant choice. At every moment, a person has a choice: either retreat or advance towards the goal. Either a movement towards even greater fear, fears, protection, or the choice of a goal and the growth of spiritual strength. To choose development instead of fear ten times a day means to move ten times towards self-realization.
Abraham Maslow

Anyone who has only a hammer as his tool tends to look at any problem like a nail.
Abraham Maslow

Trying to escape anxiety is doomed to failure. Moreover, the one who wants to get rid of anxiety loses the invaluable opportunity to exercise himself, is not able to learn to be human.
Rollo May

Since the pigs learned about Freud, they explain all disgusting things with a complex.
Don Aminado

Anything that annoys others can lead to self-understanding.
Carl Gustav Jung

... a neurotic can be characterized as a person who did not give up in the struggle for his own personality.
Eric Fromm

Man is the only animal for whom his own existence is a problem: he must solve it and one cannot get away from it. He cannot return to a prehuman state of harmony with nature and must develop his mind until he becomes the master of nature and himself.
Eric Fromm

In what cases do you need to go to a psychologist, and in what cases already to a psychiatrist?

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I think other people's thoughts very easily become our own if they are perceived and processed. Conclusion: read the great and your thinking will be exalted!

Loneliness is due not the absence of people around, but the inability to talk to people about what seems essential to you, or the unacceptability of your views for others.

Carl Gustav Jung

The problem of "unloving" quite often turns into a problem of one's own unloving.

Irwin Yalom

If I love another person, I feel oneness with him, but with who he is, and not with who I would like him to be, as a means to my ends.

Erich Fromm

Psychotherapists are people who have learned better than others to get along with their madness.

Karl Whitaker

Where there is Proximity, there are no Games.

Eric Berne

People sometimes say about a person "He has not found himself yet." But they do not find themselves, but create.

Thomas Saas

Numerous problems arise when we try to meet the expectations of others instead of defining our own.

Carl Rogers

Trying to be ourselves, we cause alienation in many people, while trying to yield to the desires of others, we cause alienation in ourselves.

Clarissa Estes

Most of what is real inside us is not realized, and what is realized is unreal.

Sigmund Freud

The world is just perfect, so there is no need to improve it, all your efforts are in vain. Leave the world alone, in the end, and take care of yourself at your leisure!

Nikolay Linde

Wish someone is lucky enough to meet you and you are lucky enough to meet someone.

Eric Berne

All of our actions are based on two motives: the desire to become great and the sexual desire.

Sigmund Freud

Every normal person is actually only partially normal.

Sigmund Freud

Illusions attract us by relieving pain, and as a substitute they bring pleasure. For this, we must accept without complaint when, in conflict with a part of reality, illusions are shattered into smithereens.

Sigmund Freud

Anyone who has only a hammer as his tool tends to look at any problem like a nail.

Abraham Maslow

I very seriously object to the pursuit of excellence that some doctors and psychologists adhere to when working with people. I have never met a perfect human being and do not expect to ever meet one. Perhaps it is the imperfection that you are trying to take away from the person that gives him the charm, which makes it possible to distinguish this individual and remember him.

Milton Erickson

No influence on a person can be more intrusive and predetermining than one that he is not aware of.

Otto Kernberg

These terrible crows - depression, despair and a sense of uselessness - will always be somewhere nearby, right outside our window. No matter how consciously we want to get rid of them, they will come to us

coming back again and again, and their hoarse croaks will interrupt our sleepy denial. Think of them as a constant reminder of the challenge ahead. Even hearing their croaking, the sound of their wings, we still retain our freedom of choice.

James Hollis

A person who feels loneliness experiences a unique experience of wandering and at the same time realizes his own inner essence with which he can enter into a dialogue. Through this dialogue, the individuation process begins.

James Hollis

We enter the world alone and alone we leave it.

Sigmund Freud

The task of making a person happy was not part of the plan for the creation of the world.

Sigmund Freud

In a sense, what we call happiness happens as a result of (preferably unforeseen) satisfaction. long time restrained needs.

Sigmund Freud

To be truly intimate with another, we must truly listen to the other: let go of stereotypes and expectations about the other and allow ourselves to be shaped by the other's response.

Irwin Yalom

Relationships are unsuccessful when a person is partly with another, and partly with someone else fictional.

Irwin Yalom

We are completely responsible for our lives, not only for our actions, but also for our inability to act.

Irwin Yalom

Love is, rather, a form of existence: not so much attraction as self-giving, an attitude not so much to one person as to the world as a whole.

Irwin Yalom

We are all lonely ships in the dark sea. We see the lights of other ships - we cannot get to them, but their presence and similar to our position give us comfort.

Irwin Yalom

Life must be lived now; it cannot be postponed endlessly.

Irwin Yalom

Life means nothing, not yet thinking man who could interpret her phenomena.

Carl Gustav Jung

Meeting with yourself is one of the most unpleasant.

Carl Gustav Jung

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemicals: if there is even the slightest reaction, both elements change.

Carl Gustav Jung

Anything that annoys others can lead to self-understanding.

Carl Gustav Jung

Your gaze will become clear only when you can look into your own soul.

Carl Gustav Jung

We often encounter despair stemming from the inability to make a choice or the unwillingness to be ourselves; but the deepest despair occurs when a person chooses "to be not himself, to be different."

Carl Rogers

A person can go beyond his own limits only relying on his own true nature, and not on ambitions and artificial goals.

Frederick Perls

Awareness of the present leads to psychological growth without running away into the past or the future. Experiencing the present in any this moment is the only possible real experience, the condition of satisfaction and fullness of life, and consists in accepting with an open heart this experience of the present.

Frederick Perls

There is no worse lie than a misunderstood truth.

William James

When it is necessary to make a choice, and you do not, this is also a choice.

William James

The art of being wise is knowing what to ignore.

William James

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a person can change his life by changing his attitude towards it.

William James

there is a definition stating that meanings and values ​​are nothing more than reactive formations and defense mechanisms. As for me, I would not want to live for my reactive formations, and even less - to die for my defense mechanisms.

Victor Fracknl

Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you catch it, the more it slips away. But if you shift your attention to other things, It will come and quietly sit on your shoulder.

Victor Frankl

The desire to find the meaning of life is the main motivating force in a person ... I am not afraid to say that there is no more effective help for survival in the world, even in the most terrible conditions, than knowing that your life has meaning.

Victor Frankl

Suffering as its goal is to save a person from apathy, from spiritual stiffness.

Victor Frankl

Let the one of you who is devoid of neurotic manifestations be the first to throw a stone at me, be he a theologian or a psychiatrist.

Victor Frankl

Not the last of the lessons that I was able to learn from Auschwitz and Dachau was that the greatest chances of surviving even in such an extreme situation had, I would say, those who were directed to the future, to the cause that awaited them, to the meaning that they wanted to implement.

Victor Frankl

How seductive are popular conversations about self-fulfillment and self-realization of a person! As if a person is only meant to satisfy his own needs or himself.

Victor Frankl

What matters is not our fears or our anxiety, but how we relate to them.

Victor Frankl

Life either has meaning, in which case meaning cannot disappear from anything that can happen. Either it does not make sense - but then it also does not depend on the events taking place.

Victor Frankl

Man has become a commodity and sees his life as capital that should be profitably invested. If he succeeds in this, then his life makes sense, and if not, he is a failure. Its value is determined by demand, not by its human virtues: kindness, intelligence, artistic ability.

Erich Fromm

The unhappy fate of many people is the result of a choice they did not make. They are neither alive nor dead. Life turns out to be a burden, an aimless occupation, and deeds are only a means of protection from the torment of being in the kingdom of shadows.

Erich Fromm

The task of a person is to expand the space of his destiny, to strengthen what contributes to life, as opposed to what leads to death. Speaking about life and death, I do not mean a biological state, but the ways of being a person, his interaction with the world.

Erich Fromm

The main life task of a person is to give life to himself, to become what he is potentially. The most important fruit of his efforts is his own personality.

Erich Fromm

The main danger in life is over-caution.

Alfred Adler

Quotes from psychologists about the existence of man are quite entertaining. At all times, man has sought to find the meaning of life. Many people dedicated long years to understand the true purpose of their stay on earth. To solve this difficult task, numerous austerities were carried out, various tests were arranged.

This is because a person is by nature a researcher, he tends to seek the truth in everything. Quotes from psychologists about the meaning and essence of human existence make you think about a lot. For those people who want to live their best years meaningfully, they can be useful.

“The immeasurable benefit is to spend your life on the work that will remain for centuries” (W. James)

It is very important to set the right direction for your existence. You can't just waste your days striving for momentary pleasures. With this approach, it is impossible to achieve anything significant. You can only feel the greatest value in your life when we put in considerable effort to do something useful. Self-realization presupposes, first of all, the acceptance of responsibility. A person must understand well what to use his best years for, and only then will he be able to achieve success. When we devote ourselves to our favorite pastime every day, it seems pointless and useless. The appeal to eternal values ​​radically changes the attitude towards reality.

"Changes in consciousness can change a whole life" (D. Carnegie)

The existence of each person is determined by his aspirations. Quotes from psychologists confirm the idea that we get exactly the result we are striving for. Events and circumstances often shape up as expected. It's just that a person gets used to direct energy in a certain direction every day and therefore gets approximately the same result every time. The one who constantly complains about life, as a rule, does not develop, but stands still. The problem is that most people do not believe in themselves, do not see the opportunities that are next to them. They get used to living, submitting to the monotonous stream of gray everyday life, do not even try to change anything.

Making meaningful changes in your mindset can really help you free yourself from an oppressive sense of hopelessness. When habitual stereotypes are destroyed, a new understanding of the essence of life will come. Quotations of great psychologists in many cases are aimed at revealing this truth.

"Love cannot be measured by suffering, because a healthy feeling is happiness" (M. Labkovsky)

Many people confuse being in love with own fears and fears about unfulfilled desires. Most people mistake suffering for a particular person for love. However, this understanding has nothing to do with reality. Quotes by psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky are aimed at examining the essence of love as a state. If we suffer, then we move away from our true "I", we cannot express our own feelings. You cannot dissolve in a partner precisely because in this case there is a great risk of losing yourself. People who truly feel happy in a relationship say they don't tolerate false self-sacrifice.

Understanding love as inevitable suffering in advance takes away our internal resources, makes us doubt our own capabilities. In this case, the inner forces of the personality are buried under a multitude of uncontrollable experiences. Over time, the ability to actively influence your own life is lost. It seems that events are happening by themselves, without our participation.

“If one person replaces the whole world for another, it means that his own personality is lost” (M. Labkovsky)

How often people live only by the interests and needs of their partner, forgetting about their own! Quotes from the psychologist Labkovsky reflect the problem of a person taking responsibility towards himself. Few make the effort to pursue individual dreams. After all, constant self-sacrifice reduces the chances of effective self-realization. Integrity is a state that is achieved through tireless work on oneself.

Thus, quotes from psychologists about the predestination of personality are of the greatest value. They reveal the essence of life itself, as they help to focus on the main thing.

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  Do not imagine that your case is extraordinarily difficult. Even those who, over time, became the most eloquent representatives of their generation, at the beginning of their careers suffered from such an unaccountable fear and shyness.

  
  Dale Carnegie
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  Everyone is firmly convinced of their objectivity, and no one believes in someone else's

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  In psychosis, the fantasy world plays the role of a storeroom, from which psychosis draws material or samples for constructing a new reality.

  
  Sigmund Freud
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  In our dreams, we always have one foot in childhood.

  
  Sigmund Freud
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  The dream is the guardian of the dream, not the sleepwalker.

  
  Sigmund Freud
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  If there is any secret of success here (in the art of relationships between people), then it lies in the ability to understand the point of view of another person and look at things from both his point of view and from his point of view.

  
  Henry Ford
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  A person has two motives for behavior - one real and the second, which sounds beautiful.

  
  Henry Ford
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  A psychologist is a person who looks at everyone else when beautiful girl enters the room.

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  Normal people are only those whom you know little.

  
  Alfred Adler
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  Separate the incident from the underlying problem. The problem is not behavior, but the inability to change the situation, to have tears and mixed feelings.

  
  Gordon Newfeld
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  If a child experiencing irritation could not change the situation and could not cry tears of futility, could not go from anger to grief, then the energy of frustration goes further, to the last mechanism of protection from the manifestation of aggression.

  
  Gordon Newfeld
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  To invite an older child to depend on us is to convince the child that he can rely on us, rely on us, can entrust us with his problems and we will solve them, he expects our help. We kind of tell the child that we are here for him and that it's okay if he needs us.

  
  Gordon Newfeld
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  An invitation to depend and an agreement to depend is a choreography of two people who love and trust each other.

  
  Gordon Newfeld
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  The missionary accusation of psychotherapy does not seem to me to be justified. It is strange to talk about the development of psychotherapy, while excluding expansion as a property of life. Psychotherapy in its current understanding emerged as a proposal in response to a socio-cultural request. But, having arisen, it - like any other field of activity - cannot but generate demand. The logic within which the formation of demand for medicine is called enlightenment, and for psychotherapy - missionary work, is the logic of biased subjectivity, a double standard.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  My task as a therapist is not to penetrate into the patient's meanings and the reasons for their occurrence, but to create conditions in which the patient has the opportunity to live and experience these meanings himself more fully and differently, to change them so that, in some In some cases, they ceased to generate or sustain symptoms, while in others they led to optimization of coping strategies and maintenance of quality of life with persisting symptoms.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  I have great doubts about the thesis about the need to subject psychotherapeutic methods to "serious scientific analysis" - at least as long as this analysis is associated with a "scientific worldview", on the basis of which, allegedly, psychotherapeutic methods do not want to act, and for now, for sure it is not defined what constitutes a "serious scientific analysis" to which they allegedly do not want to undergo. Here it is appropriate to recall an anecdote: a private trader drives up to a man standing in a long line for a taxi: "Give me a lift?" - "But you are not a taxi" - "What do you need - checkers or go?" The catchphrase that has already become a catch phrase: “I don’t know why it works, but it works” reflects the situation in psychotherapy much more accurately than supposedly scientific “checkers”.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  Psychotherapy is often reproached for the fact that it is represented by many closed sects with their own beliefs, their own "bird language". Indeed, each of its directions forms its own theories, from which, supposedly, methods follow, although upon impartial examination it turns out that these theories themselves are mythologies based on individual perception and empirical findings.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  With regard to psychotherapy, we can say that today a person lives in a culture of changes, not canons. This culture itself is devoid of previous psycho-regulatory traditions that helped to cope with changes. And if the scientific and industrial revolutions of the XIX c., changing lifestyles, relied, of course, on "scientific psychotherapy" with its laboratory and medicalization, today the emphasis is shifting more and more from sciences to humanities.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  First of all, psychotherapy is a hypostasis of culture. I would especially like to emphasize the non-replication of psychotherapy: just as in the theater, each performance of the same play is unique - the same but not the same, in psychotherapy each session is unique even when using the same method or technique. Dialogue - and psychotherapy is a dialogue, not an impact - is not replicated.

  
  Victor Kagan
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  Term psychotherapy denotes different principles(secular, that is, secular) ethics and their application in practice. Thus, each method and each school of psychotherapy is a system of applied ethics, expressed in the idiom of treatment. Each of these methods and each of the schools bears the imprint of the characteristics of the personalities of their founders and adherents, their aspirations and values.