Test for teenagers whether you are a conflict person. Test "Are you a conflict personality?". c) don't refrain from commenting

The test allows you to assess the degree of your conflict or tact. Choose one of the three suggested answers - "a", "b" or "c".

Questionnaire

1. Imagine that public transport begins

dispute. What are you doing?

a) avoid interfering in a quarrel;

b) you can intervene, take the side of the victim, the one who is right;

c) always intervene and defend your point of view to the end.

2. Do you criticize the management for mistakes made at the meeting:

b) yes, but depending on your personal attitude towards him;

c) always criticize for mistakes.

3. Your immediate supervisor lays out a work plan that seems irrational to you. Would you suggest a plan that you think is best:

a) if others support you, then yes;

b) of course, you will support your plan;

c) you are afraid that you may be deprived of bonuses for criticism.

4. Do you like to argue with your colleagues, friends:

a) only with those who are not offended, and when disputes do not spoil your relationship;

b) yes, but only on fundamental, important issues;

c) you argue with everyone and for any reason.

5. Someone is trying to get ahead of you out of line:

a) considering that you are no worse than him, try to bypass the queue;

b) you are indignant, but to yourself;

c) openly express your indignation.

6. Imagine that a rationalization proposal is being considered, the experimental work of your colleague, in which there are bold ideas, but there are also errors. You know that your opinion will be decisive. How do you do:

a) comment on both the positive and negative aspects of this project;

b) highlight the positive aspects of his work and offer to provide an opportunity to continue it;

c) you will criticize it: to be an innovator, you must not make mistakes.

7. Imagine: the mother-in-law (tesha) constantly tells you about the need for savings and frugality, about your extravagance, and now and then she buys expensive things. She wants to know your opinion about her latest purchase. What will you say to her?

a) approve the purchase if it gave her pleasure;

b) note that this thing is tasteless;

c) once again quarrel with her because of this.

8. You met children who smoke. How do you react:

a) you think: “Why should I spoil my mood because of strangers, poorly educated mischievous people?”;

b) make a remark to them;

c) if it was in a public place, you would chastise them.

9. In a restaurant, you notice that the waiter cheated on you:

a) in this case, you do not give him a tip that you prepared in advance if he acted honestly;

b) ask him to calculate the amount again in front of you;

c) it will be a cause for scandal.

10. You are in a holiday home. The administrator is engaged in extraneous matters, he has fun, instead of fulfilling his duties: he does not follow the cleaning in the room and the variety of the menu. Does this bother you:

a) yes, but even if you express any claims to him, this is unlikely to change anything;

b) you find a way to complain about him, let him be punished or even fired from his job;

c) you take out your dissatisfaction on junior staff (cleaners, waitresses).

11. You argue with your teenage son and make sure he's right. Do you admit your mistake:

b) of course you do;

Take stock

Using the key, count the number of points.

Each answer option has its own score.

answer "a" - 4 points;

answer "b" - 2 points;

answer "c" - 0 points.

30 - 44 points. You are tactful. You do not like conflicts, even if you can smooth them out, you easily avoid critical situations. When you have to enter into an argument, then you take into account how this will affect your official position or friendly relations. You strive to be pleasant to others, but when they need help, you do not always dare to provide it. Don't you think that by doing so you lose respect for yourself in the eyes of others?

15 - 29 points. They say about you that you are too principled or even a conflicting person. You persistently defend your opinion, regardless of how it will affect your work or personal relationships, and you are respected for this.

10 - 14 points. You are looking for reasons to argue, most of which are unnecessary, petty. Love to criticize, but only when it benefits you. You impose your opinion, even if you are wrong. You will not be offended if you are considered a lover of scandal? Think about whether an inferiority complex is hiding behind your behavior?

Note. The test, if necessary, must be “adapted” to the educational audience.

Appendix 2

Assertiveness Test

Usually, assertiveness is understood as naturalness and independence from external influences and assessments, the ability to independently regulate one's own behavior and be responsible for it. An assertive person is someone who is in charge of their own behavior, demonstrates self-respect and respect for others, is positive, listens, understands and tries to reach a working compromise. This test will help you to find out the level of your assertiveness.

Instructions: Choose the answer "yes" or "no" in the following positions.

1. I am annoyed by the mistakes of other people: yes no;

2. I can remind a friend of a debt: yes no;

3. From time to time I tell lies: yes no;

4. I am able to take care of myself: yes no;

5. I happened to ride "hare": yes no;

6. Rivalry is better than cooperation: yes no;

7. I often torture myself over trifles: yes no;

8. I am an independent and rather decisive person: yes no;

9. I love everyone I know: yes no;

10. I believe in myself, I have enough strength to cope with current problems:

11. Nothing can be done, a person must always be on the alert in order to be able to protect his interests: yes no;

12. I never laugh at indecent jokes: yes no;

14. I do not allow anyone to twist ropes out of me. I will protest: yes no;

15. I support every good undertaking: yes no;

16. I never lie: yes no;

17. I am a practical person: yes no;

18. I am depressed only by the fact that I can fail: yes no;

19. I agree with the saying: “Look for a helping hand first of all at your own shoulder”: yes no;

20. Friends have a big influence on me: yes no

21. I am always right, even if others think otherwise: yes no

22. I agree that the important thing is not to win, but to participate: yes no

23. Before doing anything, I will think carefully about how others will perceive it: yes no

24. I never envy anyone: yes no

Now count the number of positive responses in the following positions:

1, 6, 7, 11, 13, 18, 20, 23 Score A =

2, 4, 8, 10, 14, 17, 19, 22 Score B =

3, 5, 9, 12, 15, 16, 21, 24 Count B =

HIGHEST SCORE IS A: You know assertiveness but don't use it much in your life. You often experience dissatisfaction with yourself and others.

HIGHEST SCORE IN B: You are on the right track and can master assertiveness very well. In principle, you are now able to act in the right direction. At times, your attempts to act assertively result in aggressiveness. But it is not important. What student has not stuffed himself with cones.

HIGHEST SCORE IN SCORE B: Despite the results of the previous two counts, you have a good chance of mastering assertiveness. In short, you have formed an opinion about yourself and your behavior, you evaluate yourself realistically, and this is a good basis for acquiring any skill necessary for dealing with others.

LOWEST PERFORMANCE REACHED ON THE SCORE A: It is not a tragedy that you fail to take advantage of the many chances that life gives you. It is important to learn to live in harmony with yourself and know what to do.

LOWEST SCORE IS REACHED B: Assertiveness can be learned. As S. Lek said: “Training is everything, even cauliflower is just well-trained white cabbage.”

LOWEST SCORE PERFORMANCE Q: Now that's a problem. You overestimate yourself and behave not quite sincerely. It's not so much about self-deception, but about the fact that you see yourself in a better light. It would be nice to reflect on yourself.

Appendix 3

Any person can distinguish character traits that predispose to conflicts in interpersonal communication. In some they are pronounced, in others they are weaker. With the help of this test you will be able to determine whether you have such personal qualities. This will help to correctly assess your behavior in a particular situation and correct it.

Questions:

1. How do you respond to criticism?

a) As a rule, criticism deeply hurts me;

b) I usually take criticism to heart;

c) I try to consider if the criticism is fair;

d) I usually do not pay attention to criticism.

2. Do you trust people?

a) I am of the opinion that it is better not to trust anyone;

b) I hardly believe people, I was deceived in them;

c) I trust people when there are no special grounds for distrust;

d) I usually trust people indiscriminately.

3. Do you know how to fight for your point of view?

a) I always stubbornly defend my views;

b) I defend my views only when I am completely convinced that I am right;

c) I would rather give in than vigorously defend my views;

d) I prefer to give up my views than to conflict because of them.

4. Do you prefer to lead or obey?

a) In any business I like to lead myself;

b) I like both to lead and to be led by a more experienced comrade;

c) I am more willing to work under someone else's guidance;

d) As a rule, I prefer to work under someone's guidance and transfer responsibility to him.

5. If someone offended you?

a) I try to repay the same;

b) I'm afraid to take revenge because of further consequences;

c) I consider revenge a superfluous, unnecessary effort;

d) If someone offends me, I quickly forget the offense.

6. Did someone try to pass you in line?

a) Capable of throwing such a person out;

b) I swear, but only if others swear;

c) I am silent, although I am indignant;

d) I prefer to retreat, I do not enter into a quarrel.

7. Are you easy to "knock off"?

a) I get upset easily over the smallest things;

b) I get upset when there are serious reasons for it;

c) I rarely get upset and only for serious reasons;

d) Nothing upsets me.

8. Are you "ice" or "fire"?

a) I am hot and quick-tempered;

b) Not very quick-tempered;

c) rather calm than quick-tempered;

d) A very calm person.

9. Is it easy for you to tell the truth?

a) I always say what I think, straight to the eye;

b) It happens that I can say everything I think;

c) I speak deliberately only after reflection;

d) I will weigh my words more than once before I say anything.

Instructions:

Answers under the letter "a" are estimated at 1 point,

"b" - in 2,

"in" - in 3,

"g" - 4 points.

Summarize the answers to the questions.

Results:

If you got a result 9 –19 points you are a difficult person to communicate, sometimes you go into conflict not for the sake of business, but “because of the principle”. Perhaps, even without admitting to yourself, you feel satisfaction, giving vent to your emotions and watching the passions flare up around you. Sometimes people say approvingly in your eyes: “A fighter for the truth”, “Brave, you are not afraid to criticize shortcomings!”. But listen better to other statements: "Take care of your nerves and the nerves of others", "Do not boil, otherwise all your energy will turn into steam", "Your energy, but for peaceful purposes." Tell yourself honestly: is the useful return from your struggle for justice so great? Your emotions do not help you in this fight.

If the amount points 26–34, then you are hardly a source of conflict. However, communication with you gives little pleasure, since a person who always and in everything agrees with everyone is not interesting. In addition, passivity, the desire to get away from solving problems that arise in the team unwittingly make you an indirect culprit of conflict complications.

And finally, the sum 20–25 points c allows us to consider you a person who is quite accommodating, sociable, accommodating, able to withstand the aggravation of relations in a team (including in the family).

However, you should ask yourself if you were sincere in your answers. For many of our shortcomings, we try not to see. Therefore, check yourself again - slowly, thoughtfully, impartially.

During the class hour "Conflicts in our life" the importance of this topic for high school students is discussed, the nature of the conflict is considered, the positive and negative sides of the conflict are determined, methods of overcoming the conflict. Adolescents get acquainted with the concept of "compromise", master the primary skills of getting out of their conflict situation with the least losses for themselves and their opponent.

For a more detailed consideration of this topic, a series of events has been developed:

A series of class hours: “Conflicts in our class”, “Problems of fathers and children” (as a preparatory stage for the parent meeting “Conflicts with your own child ...”), “Learn to rule yourself”

Parent meeting "Conflicts with your own child and ways to resolve them"

Questionnaire "Are you a conflict person?"

Debate "Crime and Punishment".

Explanatory note

The main theoretical, methodological and organizational features of this class hour:

form of conduct: work in shift groups

location: cool room,

time spending- 1 hour 20 minutes.

Work in shift groups- a special form of interaction between the participants, involving the mutual exchange of experience and knowledge on the problem under discussion, contributing to the mastery of the primary skills of compromise.

Pedagogical find (novelty) of the presented development in the fact that this form of work is most interesting for children, because it allows them to acquaint them without edification with the methods and techniques of resolving conflict situations, to get acquainted with the art of compromise from their own experience; helps to immerse children in an environment of positive communication, give examples of attitudes of non-conflict behavior, create a single educational community of the teacher and the children of the class. Group effects make it possible to remove the feeling of the uniqueness and uniqueness of their own difficulties, allow children to look at their problems from a different point of view.

Expected Result- mastering the skills of constructive conflict resolution; the realization that the main ability in conflict is the ability to confront - to explain:

defend one's position openly, "face to face";

the desire to evaluate the conflict situation itself, its content, and not the human qualities of the partner;

the desire to preserve the personal relationships of all participants in the conflict.)

Topic: "Adolescent and conflicts."

Goals:

Expand the concept of a culture of peace;

Develop the skills of moral self-knowledge, introspection, self-esteem;

Solving the problem of class cohesion.

Tasks:

Describe the concept of conflict.

Consider the nature of the conflict, determine its positive and negative sides.

Learn how to resolve conflict.

Define the term "compromise".

5. Develop skills to behave constructively during a conflict, resolving it

fairly, without prejudice to society and the individual;

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"Is it a conflict

Are you a person?

Kondratieva E.S.

Instruction:

For each question, choose one answer that best fits your behavior.

1. In public transport, a dispute began in raised tones. What is your reaction?

a) do not participate;

b) I speak briefly in defense of the side that I consider right;

c) I actively intervene, than "causing fire on myself."

2. Do you speak at meetings (class hours) with criticism?

a) no;

b) only if I have compelling circumstances for this;

c) I criticize for any reason.

3. Do you often argue with your friends?

a) only if these people are not touchy;

b) only on matters of principle;

c) disputes are my element.

4. At home, an undersalted dish was served for dinner. What is your reaction?

a) I will not raise a fuss over trifles;

b) silently take the salt shaker;

c) I will not refrain from remarks.

5. If on the street, in transport, you stepped on your foot:

a) look at the offender with indignation;

b) I will dryly make a remark;

c) I will express myself without embarrassment in expressions.

6. If someone close to you bought a thing that you did not like:

a) keep silent

b) I will limit myself to a short tactful remark;

c) make a scandal.

7. Bad luck in the lottery. How do you react to this?

a) I will try to seem indifferent, but I will give myself a word never again

participate in it;

b) I will not hide my annoyance, but I will treat what happened with humor, promising to take

revenge;

c) losing will ruin your mood for a long time .

"b" - 2 points;

"in" - 0.

Calculate your total points.

From 20-28 points.

You are tactful and peaceful, avoid conflicts and disputes, avoid critical situations at work and at home. Maybe that's why they sometimes call you an opportunist.

From 10-18 points.

You are known to be a conflict person. But in fact, you conflict only when there is no other way out and all means have been exhausted. At the same time, do not go beyond the correctness, firmly defend your opinion. All this earns respect for you.

Up to 8 points .

Conflicts and disputes are your element. Love to criticize others, but do not take criticism in your address. Your rudeness and intemperance repels people. It is difficult for you both at work and at home. Try to overcome your character.

The test is taken from the book "Collection of psychological tests" / Compiled by: L.A. Bogatova, V.V. Gerasimova, L.A. Kudryashova, I.A. Radchuk.-Kazan: KNPO VTI, 2007.

Choose one answer for each question.

1. An argument broke out in public transport. What are you doing?

a - do not interfere;

b - you can intervene by taking the side of the victim;

in- I always interfere.

2. At meetings and conferences, do you criticize management for mistakes?

a - no;

b - depending on the personal attitude towards him;

in - always.

3. Your supervisor lays out his work plan, which seems unsuccessful to you. Will you offer your plan?

a - if others support you, then yes;

b - of course;

in- no.

4. Do you like to argue with your colleagues, friends?

a- only with those who are not offended;

b- yes, but only on matters of principle;

in- yes, with everyone and for any reason.

5. Someone is trying to get ahead of you in line for a scholarship or salary.

a- believing that you are worse than him, you are trying to bypass the queue;

b- you are indignant, but to yourself;

in-- express your displeasure openly.

6. Imagine that your colleague's innovation proposal is being considered, which has a bold idea, but there are also errors. You know that your opinion will be decisive. How will you do it?

a - speak about the pros and cons of this proposal;b - tell me about the advantages of the proposal and advise you to give itthe opportunity to test the idea;in- you will only criticize.

7. Imagine: your mother-in-law (or mother-in-law) constantly tells you about the need to save money, about your extravagance, and now and then she buys expensive things. She wants to know your opinion on the latest purchase. What will you tell her?

a - that you approve of the purchase;

b- that this thing is tasteless;

c - quarrel with her over the purchase.

8. You met teenagers who use foul language and smoke. How will you react?

a- don't interfere;

b- make a remark to them;

in- if it happens in a public place, you will report them.

9. In a restaurant or shop, you notice that you are cheated. How will you do it?

a- do not tip the waiter, but demand change from the sellerchu, even little things;

b - ask him to count again; in- make a scandal.

10. You are in a holiday home. The administration is engaged in extraneous matters, not fulfilling its functional duties. Does this anger you?

a- yes, but you don't speak out;

b- complain about her

c - take out your dissatisfaction on junior staff.

11. You argue with your younger brother or teenage sister and make sure they are right. Do you admit your mistake?

a - yes;

b- No;

Decoder:

Price of answers: "a" - 4 points, "b" - 2 points, "c" - 0 points.

Key:

Up to 14 points.

You are looking for an argument, most of which is just petty. Love to criticize only when it benefits you. Think about whether an inferiority complex is hiding behind your behavior?

15-29 points.

You are said to be a conflicted person. You persistently defend your opinion, regardless of how it affects your personal and work relationships.

30-44 points.

You are tactful, easily avoid conflict situations, strive to be pleasant for others, but when they need help, they do not always dare to provide it. Maybe you only require everything from others.

Application15

The ability to restrain oneself is a valuable quality, but not everyone possesses it. Are you able to control yourself and not enter into open conflicts? This test will help you figure it out.

1. A scandal begins in transport. How will you react to it?

a) you will not take part in it for anything - 3 points;

b) intervening, you will protect the victim - 2 points;

c) take an active part in it - 1 point.

2. Will you criticize your superiors at a general meeting?

a) no - 3 points;

b) depending on the circumstances - 2 points;

c) you will criticize - 1 point.

3. You see that the boss does not know how to manage his position at all. He gives no one the right job. How will you react to the situation?

a) propose changes if you are supported - 2 points;

b) take matters into your own hands - 1 point;

c) afraid to lose your job - 3 points.

4. How often do you argue with each other?

a) only when you are not offended and relations do not deteriorate - 2 points;

b) argue only on important issues - 3 points;

c) argue not only with them, but also with other people - 1 point.

5. Will you let a person through who is trying to get to the counter without queuing?

a) try to follow him - 1 point;

b) you will be indignant, but not out loud - 3 points;

c) express your indignation openly - 2 points.

6. Your friend is a terrible loser, soon he is going to commit another not entirely smart act. How will you stop it?

a) try to dissuade him - 2 points;

b) you will feed him with illusions, saying that he will do just fine - 3 points;

c) express everything you think about him - 1 point.

7. On your way home you meet a group of smoking teenagers. How will you react to them?

a) keep silent - 3 points;

b) scold them - 1 point;

c) make a comment - 2 points.

8. In the store, you notice that you have been charged more money than you should. How will you react?

a) never go to this store again - 3 points;

c) make a big scandal - 1 point.

9. At the resort, the administrator in your hotel does not fulfill his duties at all. How will you do it?

a) you will be silent, because your indignation will not give anything - 3 points;

b) complain about him to the authorities - 1 point;

c) take out your dissatisfaction on the maid - 2 points.

10. In a dispute with your husband (wife), you understand that he (a) is right (a). What will you do?

a) you do not admit the mistake - 1 point;

b) admit that they were wrong - 3 points;

c) decide that if you confess, you will look stupid - 2 points.

Calculate the number of points scored.

You have 30 to 25 points. You can be called a very tactful and absolutely non-conflict person. You prefer to resolve all conflict situations through negotiations. You can be called a pleasant person for others who is always ready to help if needed. It is very important for you not to lose respect in the eyes of friends and family.

You have from 24 to 19 points. You can be called a moderately conflicted person, because if you see that somewhere you have been treated unfairly, then you will definitely speak out about this. Even if your career is at stake, you will not be silent and will defend your point of view to the end. For this you are respected by others.

You have 18 to 13 points. You cannot live in peace. If they don’t argue with you and don’t scandal, you yourself find a reason for this, what’s even worse, you are able to easily make a scandal from scratch. As a rule, in this way you release the accumulated energy. You are very critical and constantly dissatisfied with something. Maybe it makes sense for you to direct your energy in a positive, creative direction.

You have 12 points or less. You have destructive energy. The slightest criticism in your direction or a carelessly spoken word threatens the person who said it with big troubles. You are able to "incinerate" your opponent with one glance. It remains only to guess what you are capable of. Many people are afraid of you, and those who know about your character try to stay away from you and once again not to catch your eye. At this rate, you may lose those friends you still have left!